Just real quick... Ever hear a song so much that you kind of just sing it without paying attention to the words? Was listening to Usher and realized that from the bottom of my feet to the top of my head, I feel U Got It Bad. Not sure how I feel about it, but man... Usher Raymond vs. Icno 1-0 Lyrics "U Got It Bad" Oh, no, no, no, no, no... When you feel it in your body You found somebody who makes you change your ways Like hanging with your crew Said you act like you're ready But you don't really know And everything in your past - you wanna let it go I've been there, done it, fucked around After all that - this is what I found Nobody wants to be alone If you're touched by the words in this song Then baby... U got, u got it bad When you're on the phone Hang up and you call right back U got, u got it bad If you miss a day without your friend Your whole life's off track You know you got it bad when you're stuck in the house You don't wanna have fun It's all you think about U got it bad when you're out with someone But you keep on thinkin' bout somebody else U got it bad When you say that you love 'em And you really know Everything that used to matter, don't matter no more Like my money, all my cars (You can have it all back) Flowers, cards and candy (I do it just cause I'm...) Said I'm fortunate to have you girl I want you to know I really adore you All my people who know what's going on Look at your mate, help me sing my song Tell her I'm your man, you're my girl I'm gonna tell it to the whole wide world Ladies say I'm your girl, you're my man Promise to love you the best I can See I've been there, done it, fucked around After all that - this is what I found Everyone of y'all are just like me It's too bad that you can't see That you got it bad...hey U got, u got it bad When you're on the phone Hang up and you call right back U got, u got it bad If you miss a day without your friend Your whole life's off track You know you got it bad when you're stuck in the house You don't wanna have fun It's all you think about U got it bad when you're out with someone But you keep on thinkin' bout somebody else U got it bad [breakdown] U got, u got it bad When you're on the phone Hang up and you call right back U got, u got it bad If you miss a day without your friend Your whole life's off track You know you got it bad when you're stuck in the house You don't wanna have fun It's all you think about U got it bad when you're out with someone But you keep on thinkin' bout somebody else U got it bad

The Weekend

I've come to the conclusion that my blogging daily is a wrap, so I'm going to TRY and post once a week, every other week at the most. Right now I'm chillin' with the laptop across my feet, with What Kind of Man Would I Be - Mint Condition, playing on Spotify. I'm reflecting over the activities of the weekend. Helped a cousin have a rummage sale. There was some really good stuff, but I don't think that the advertising was as good as it could have been and I think running Friday and Saturday instead of Saturday and Sunday would have helped. I got some good buys. I bought several purses, 4 of them designer, a carry-on bag, a comforter and a video camera for my son all for under $30! Saturday night, I went swimming with my aunt and cousins and Sunday after church and the second sale, my cousins, aunts, grandmother and I got together for Quesadillas, finger foods and the Trade. What is the trade? It's a way to get rid of/regift something you no longer want. For instance, I brought about 12 things from jewelry I never wear, a cd I didn't care for and some clothes. We all laid out our wares and looked for things we liked. Once we found something, we found the owner and showed her the things we brought and she chose something she wanted. We did this until everyone had what they really wanted and then whatever was left over was free game for anyone. No one usually wants to take home the same things they brought. I made out pretty well. I found a dress, a workout outfit, some jeans a couple of tee shirts, a necklace and 3 pair of earrings. Some of the things traded still had tags on them. What a deal, huh? You should try it some times. Guys too! Until next time!

R.I.P. Gene EbonyPoet Cole

Graphic originally posted by Unemotional Cole on FB

The Cole Family will have a memorial in Gene EbonyPoet Cole memory at Woody's Funeral Home, 163 Oakwood Avenue, Orange, NJ at 2 pm. There will be no viewing. The memorial will be Saturday, August 11, 2012 @ 2 pm.

I first became friends with Gene on Yahoo! 360. He was my Freckle Faced Giant. A real sweetheart and a talented poet. With the demise of 360, we still managed to keep in touch throughout the years, but things were never the same as back then, still, he will be missed.

You just take for granted that people are going to be there and my heart broke when I saw the R.I.P. messages attached to his name.

In all our talks, I know without a doubt, that he loved his babies. My heart goes out to them because I know what it feels like.

Again, you will be missed...

No More Buffets!!!

I don't know if I'm turning into a germaphobe or what, but now when I look at things, I often "see" the germs on them. Nothing bothers me more than hotel rooms, except buffets. Now when I go to a hotel, I usually either buy a can of Lysol and layer everything with it or I pull out my Thieves spray and go to town. I have watched one too many episodes of 20/20 I now know what lurks beyond the seeing eye. Now about the buffets. I have come to the conclusion that they are the nastiest place on earth to eat. Why? You have open holding areas where kids are just the right height to sneeze, spray when they talk (Think about it. Mom: Do you want some of this? Kid: Yessssss! How many germs just got sprayed into the food? And if the kid is missing a tooth? Come on!) How many kids have you seen just reach into a container of food? Then, I'd say at least one out of three people don't wash their hands. You've seen how many people are at the buffet, especially on Sundays. How many millions of microorganisms are you touching with each dish? And thennnnnnnnnn there are the utensil bins. You have who knows who reaching into the bins, talking over the bins, taking more than one out and putting the extra back in. Same thing with the plates. No thank you. That's all before you sit down. Have you seen (really all the restaurants) the rag they use to wipe the table? They don't even clean it they just swipe a rag over it. Don't believe me? Next time you go to a restaurant, wipe your hand across the table. See what nastiness you feel. We have a routine before eating out. First of all, my mom busts out with the anti-bacterial wipes and wipes down the table (The atrocities we've seen since doing this). Then we order a cup of hot water. They almost always ask if we want tea. No thank you. We don't tell em, but that's what we dip the silverware into. When this is finished, we finally eat (not without praying over the food though). Then it's dessert time. Again, everything is kid height. Let's not talk about the new fad, the chocolate fountains. To me that's a catch-all and recycler for germs. I'm not even talking the airborne stuff, I'm talking again, about the little undisciplined urchins who (WHAT?) stick their finger in the chocolate; Who use the chocolate as a microphone (not literally) and who have licked their fingers of the food they have already partaken of and (EW) touch the frozen yogurt/ice cream machine! Not to mention, the food is full of sodium. It may not seem like it, but as a kidney patient, retain fluid and it never takes less than 2- 6 hour treatments to get off the fluid I gain with one trip to the buffet (and that's just salad, veggies and meatloaf or chicken. I stopped getting steak when I found out they soak them in a sodium solution to make them tender). We are finally done with our meal and we get up and push the chair to the table (I don't even want to know what that bumpy stuff on the back of the chair was!) and walk out the door, pushing the same handle that all those other people we were in line behind touched on their way out. I just can't take it!! Thieves spray is a product of the Young Living Company Essential Oils and Natural products. More information can be found at www.youngliving.com If you would like to purchase anything from young living, e-mail me and I can put you in contact with a distributor.

Loyalty and Honor

Honor is unstable and seldom the same; for she feeds upon opinion, and is as fickle as her food. - Charles Caleb Colton

These are two things that there seems to be very little of these days. People aren't just "selling" theirs for a price, they give it away for free. I have been watching FB timelines periodically this week and it seems it is the season for relationships ending, be it a friendship or a full fledged relationship. The leading cause seems to be a lack of loyalty and dishonor for the relationship. It seems to me that once you commit to a friendship/relationship with someone, you're true to it and you don't end it without a fight. It has always puzzled me how a person could go on and on about what you mean to them and how they can't live without you and next thing you know, they have buddied up with someone else and left you without explanation. Especially someone they'd previously had a problem with. I mean honestly, a REAL man or woman would feel the need to have a little talk and tell you things from their perspective. I think that it's terrible to be in someone's life in nearly every capacity and then just walk away with no explanation. A punk move, even. Even more of a punk move is walking away after someone has opened up to you with their honest feelings, whether it be something about themselves, you or someone else. I mean, if you can't handle the truth, say that. Most people can't. I suppose these days it is to be expected and just a way of life. It still sucks.

On to the next

I think I'm pretty done with the challenge. Yeah, I know I didn't finish it, but I doubt anyone care anyway. I think I'll just unload some random thoughts. *****************Sometimes I just want to shake the shit out of people... They snap clean off about the chick who made an off the wall comment on their page, but the guy that's cheating? Nada. Then when they ask you what you think (and if they ask, I do tell), they catch an attitude with you. Well, if you don't really want to know... *****************Why do exes feel they still have certain rights/have to hide certain things? You are EXES. Case in point, a guy, I really can't even call him my ex. We had something more than a friendship, but never a full fledged relationship. Anyway, I noticed he'd been under the radar for a minute and I was recently in his town, so I gave him a call. Now maybe it's a woman thing, but if I'm avoiding someone's calls, soon as their number pops up, I hit ignore. He wasn't so fast. He kept ignoring my calls. I thought it was funny though because it would ring two or three and then he'd send it to voicemail. I actually started calling to see if he would get any faster (he didn't). Well, come to find out, dude had gotten married. I found that interesting because as close as we've been in the past 22 years, he never even told me he was dating someone. I would have congratulated him. Hell, I would have come to the wedding if I'd known! I'm happy for him, but it seems to me that either a) he's ashamed of who he's with or b) is afraid that if it was public knowledge maybe someone would try to talk him out of it or maybe c) it just wasn't anyone else's business. *shrug* More power to ya! (Oh, he and I talked and I congratulated him and he STILL hasn't acknowledged his union. What's that about?) ******************Internet beefs crack me up. All the back and forth is unneccessary and make people look dumb. If I have something to say to someone, I don't call them out on a FB or Twitter stat, I send them an inbox message and say what I have to say and be done. FB has caused many adults to revert back to their high school days. Middle school even. If you have issue with someone, grow a pair and take it to THEM. If you want an audience, take ya ass to Broadway. ********************Oh, there is one internet beef I do like. It's DISSney Princess Feuds. There's nothing Disney about it. A guy named Ramal Johnson basically has created Twitter convos between different Disney Princesses snapping on each other. No, it's not educational. It's not politically correct. It's not uplifting but dangit, some of em are too funny!

DISSney Princess Feuds on FB and @DISSneyFeuds on Twitter

22~ Create the perfect love scene

It's funny, a year later and I still think of the same perfect love scene... Me and my husband of several years, on a porch swing (on a porch that is the length of the house), looking out at the grands playing in the yard. That's it for me...