6~What Is Your Idea of True Love?

Deep caring Total attraction to that person's spirit Always willing to be truthful Utmost respect A will to sacrifice for that person Inability to stay upset with them Truly loving them unconditionally. You know the beautiful things about them and the unsavory things about them and you still love them the same.

5~ Favorite Romantic Movie

I also have several of these, but today? Right now? I'd have to say Brown Sugar with Taye Diggs and Sanaa Lathan.

It's a story of best friends who first really bonded through the beginning of hip -hop. Their friendship has lasted into adulthood and relationships with other people. In the end they realize that their love for each other was there all along, they just finally decide to act on it. The soundtrack is BOMB too! Here's the trailer...

4~ Favorite Love song...and why?

I have many favorites, but this song touches my soul. It isn't singing about some perfect love, it speaks of a real love with challenges and working through them.

Here are the lyrics to Stars by Kindred the Family Soul So many times you could have walked away But I didn’t have to say word To convince you to stay 'Cause you know & I know this thing is real So we continue to learn And our love grows deeper still Each day I watch you Get better at this Each moment I’m more & more convinced We trusted love We took the risk We ran our own pace We won our race And could never turn away [Chorus] We come so far The stars look up at you baby My heart belongs Right here next to you baby [Verse] If I had just one wish It would be to stay together Stay together let’s grow together And it’s not much to ask of us I know we can do it I always knew it Always look at me the way you do today Treat me like a friend and listen to what I say ‘Cause girl I’m with you all the way All the way But I could never turn away [Chorus] Bridge Always look at me Same way you do today Treat like a friend Listens to what I say Say oh yeah I could never turn away [Chorus]

3~ Last/Most Recent Love...what they meant/mean to you...

They mean nothing to me. It wasn't real. It was cool while it lasted, but it definitely doesn't go down in history, LOL. In fact, it doesn't even get a song connected to it. Whoo wee, I was sure tore up about it last year, but this year? Hmmph...

Day 2~ Best Love...what they meant/mean to you

I apologize, somewhere along the way, Blogspot stopped recognizing paragraphs. Pfft.

The last time I did this challenge, I was looking at romantic love. I've realized since, the best love I've ever felt in my life (aside from family) has been the love of two of my very best friends in the world. To know that no matter what you do, no matter what you say, there may be some tense feelings at that moment, but to be able to talk it out, get past it and to really KNOW that that person still loves you? That's priceless. I have said and done some effed up things and guess what? They tell me about it and keep it moving. We pray for each other, especially if one of us is going through challenging times. We pray when things are great. If there is such a thing as unconditional love, this has got to be what it feels like. My greatest joy in each of these friendships is doing things to make them smile. I love them both so much! Some people can't have two close friends like this without one getting jealous of the other. The one I don't talk to so much understands and doesn't require my constant attention for validation of our friendship. Not that the other person does, we simply talk much more. It is such a blessing to be loved so much by people who don't have to.

30 Day Truth and Love Challenge: 1~ First Love (of course!)...what they meant/mean to you...

Looking back, I realize that the one I considered my first love, really was simply the first one I loved. He said he loved me, but his actions proved otherwise. I mean he proposed, then cheated. He came back and then married someone else. Does that sound like love to you? Me neither. Seems it was what I once considered my second love that was really my first. Perhaps I'd have realized that sooner had our lines of communication been better. I was 17 and he 21. My 17 year old mind was about the moment and his 21 year old mind was thinking about the future. He was trying to be a provider and being that I had parents already, I don't know if I saw him as trying to control me or what. Honestly I can't remember, but looking back, I could see that he wanted to "do" for me and I wasn't really accepting it because of my fierce independence. I didn't realize it then, but that's how he showed me he loved me. I know that as much as a 17 year old could really know about love, I loved him too. Still have a place in my heart for him.

The Second Time Around: 30 Day Truth and Love Challenge

June 3, it will be a year that I decided to become a single woman again and a year that I will celebrate(?) celibacy. Define celibacy? Some will argue that if you say you're celibate, it means you haven't had sex, no self-love etc. You've done absolutely nothing. Well, the World English dictionary says that to be celibate is to abstain from sexual intercourse and the definition of sexual intercourse is genital contact, especially the insertion of the penis into the vagina followed by orgasm; coitus; copulation. So that's the definition I'll go with. So yeah...It hasn't been easy, but I am in the mindset that no one gets the goodies unless we're in love. In "like" just doesn't get it for me anymore. Which brings me to this...I'm pretty sure I'm in love with someone and I don't know what to do with it. I'm not sure they feel the exact same way about me, but I'm not sure they don't either. I'm interested in learning how my opinions and feelings have changed about certain persons and situations since I last took this challenge and I invite you to do it too.

So here are the questions: 1~ First Love (of course!)...what they meant/mean to you... 2~ Best Love...what they meant/mean to you... 3~ Last/Most Recent Love...what they meant/mean to you... 4~ Favorite Love song...and why? 5~ Favorite Romantic Movie 6~ What is your idea of true love? 7~ Have you ever been deeply in love? Explain 8~ Do you think you can be in love with two people at the same time? 9~ Tell us about the first time you ever made love (not had sex) 10~ List 10 people you love and explain what they mean to you 11~ Whom (no names, if you prefer) did you love, who didn't love you back? 12~ Do you believe in zodiac compatibility? Who is your best match from experience? You worst? 13~ Do you believe in unconditional love? 14~ Recreate your most romantic date (a real one)... 15~ Can you live without a love relationship? 16~ Do you believe in love at first sight? 17~ Do you think young people can fall in love and it be true? 18~ Have you ever been in a love triangle...with you as the object of desire? 19~ What do you love to do the most? 20~ Do you believe in Long Distance/Internet Love? Why or Why not? 21~ What is the most romantic location you would want to visit? 22~ Create the perfect love scene 23~ Do you think love and marriage are synonymous? 24~ Have you broken anyone's heart? 25~ Looking back on your life...who taught you the most about what love is/isn't? 26~ If your young daughter or son came to you and told you they were in love with someone your age...what would your response be? 27~ Does anyone you've broken up with still love and pursue you? 28~ If you had a choice between a love relationship and just sex [guaranteed]...which would you choose? 29~ Write a Love letter to your soul mate (whether you feel you've met them or not) 30~ Did this love challenge teach you anything? If so/not...what/why?