Just a Follow Up on The Last Post

If you didn't read my last post I spoke on people making uninformed opinions about people in entertainment and how people were going IN on Nicki Minaj supporting Mitt Romney. Because I like to be informed, I started searching for said endorsement. Alas, the only one I could find was a lyric in a song...and it wasn't even Nicki as Nicki, it was Nicki as Roman. Who listens to Roman? Apparently the fool that started the rumor. Even President Obama knew the difference. ..Nicki Minaj Confirms Romney Endorsement Was Sarcasm By Matthew Larotonda | ABC OTUS News – Mon, Sep 10, 2012.. Rapper Minaj has broken her silence on her apparent endorsement of Mitt Romney via her Twitter account. And apparently, President Obama's suggestion she was playing a "character" was not too far off. She writes: "@nickiminaj Ha! Thank you for understanding my creative humor & sarcasm Mr. President, the smart ones always do… *sends love & support* @barackobama" This morning the president told an Orlando hip-hop station he wasn't sure what to make of the media reports of the artist's endorsement or whether to believe she was being serious. "I'm not sure that's actually what happened," Obama said in a radio interview. The hosts of Power 95.3's "Obie and Lil'Shawn" show had asked the president what he thought of a recently debuted Minaj song, which contains the lyrics "I'm a Republican voting for Mitt Romney/You lazy b*****s is f*****g up the economy." Minaj was featured as a guest artist on a Lil' Wayne album released last week. "I think she had a song on there - a little rap that said that," Obama said. "But she likes to play different characters, so I don't know what's going on there." The president was referencing the fact that Minaj is known for adopting off-beat alter-egos as part of her act. One show host offered his own explanation: "That was probably Roman who did it," he said jokingly, a reference to Minaj's alter-ego "Roman Zolanski." It's one of her more popular personas portrayed to be evil. He makes "appearances" across multiple albums. As of press time Minaj had not addressed the issue on Twitter, and her publicists have not returned ABC News' requests for comment. The president, though, said he tends to pay less attention to any ribbing he receives from celebrities. "The truth is when it comes to music and movies, etc. Michelle and I just focus on who's good," Obama concluded. "Look, I love Clint Eastwood movies, man." How many bandwagoners jumped on,tried and convicted her without even laying eyes on anything officially? See, you've probably had your mind made up about something you've heard about me too. People, I don't berate you for having an opinion. Everyone has the right to have one, but PLEASE, make it an informed one! And yes, from time to time, I listen to Nicki Minaj!

Some Of You Should Know Better

I normally don't talk politics because doing so has the potential to break up some pretty decent acquaintanceships (as opposed to friendships), but I was so proud of my President last night, I couldn’t hold back!

What I saw in my Facebook Timeline later in the night however, was rather disappointing. I saw people announcing that if they had any connections who weren’t voting for President Obama, to delete themselves from their contacts. All Republicans are stupid. All kinds of stuff. When did political party become a requirement of friendship? I know I have some connections who are not supporters of President Obama. That’s their choice. There is more to a person than their political party. We may not agree on some things, but something clicked between us at some point and I personally refuse to remove them from my life because they don’t want to vote for the person I want to. I mean if you’re going that route, you might as well get rid of anyone who cheers for a team that rivals your favorite, right? Or only keep people who prefer lemon cake over chocolate. Now I’m not saying that I have friends who are undercover Klansmen or anything so extreme, but I respect my friends and acquaintances enough to understand that we will not likely agree on everything and not let that affect the relationship we’ve built, whatever it is. While we’re talking judgment here, I want to address something else. I see a whole lot of people who say they believe in God and love God, hate on a lot of folks. I think the most “hated” these days is Nicki Minaj and Lil Wayne. At least those are the names I saw most last night between Twitter and Facebook. Folks are giving Nicki the blues because she’s (allegedly, because I didn’t hear her say it) voting for Romney. That is her choice. I don’t know what the reasoning is behind that, but I would assume that she has made an informed decision based on her beliefs. That’s what we do in America. Everyone is criticizing her, but do we even know how she came to that conclusion? Do we know that she will actually follow through with that? Do we know if she said that just to get a rise out of folks? Not at all. Which one of those people has actually spoken with her? Do they know the reasoning behind the things she does? For all they know, she could have been very poor growing up and paranoid about being there again after having so much money. *shrug* It’s just hard to pass true judgment when you really don’t know someone.

What I see when I look at her is sometimes real strange, but it seems to work for her. What I also see is a lot of “Barbz and Ken Barbz” who dress similar to her and who are devout followers. I see little girls who might otherwise be loners, up their self esteem when Nicki addresses them. It’s not much. It might not be the inspiration you and I had, but things aren’t like they were when we were younger. Which brings me to the next one, Lil Wayne…I “liked” him on FB and almost immediately got an inbox message from someone saying “I didn’t know you had a thing for roaches”. Wow, really? Perhaps your mirror is too small to show you your shortcomings. I guess people don’t realize that the entertainment business is just that, people doing what they do to ENTERTAIN people. If everyone entertained the same way, guess what? People wouldn’t be entertained! So entertainers, in the midst of what they do, find a way to be different while being the same. Does that make sense? Oh I didn’t see the VMA’s, but someone went IN on Wayne because he came out on a skateboard. Guess what? He loves to skate! They go in on the skinny pants he wears. Guess what? That’s what some skaters wear. It doesn’t make him gay, it makes him comfortably dressed for when he hits an ollie kickflip or an ollie heelflip. Don’t know what that is? Oh, you probably know just as much about him! Do you get it yet?

You won’t understand why people do the things they do until you get the opportunity to sit down and talk with them and you may not understand even then, but this has become such a judgmental society that no one even cares to find the why’s. In my head, Wayne isn’t much different than Michael Jackson. He became an entertainer when he was what? 13 or 14? That is still a kid. He didn’t have the easiest life, so maybe skateboarding gives him the kind of freedom you should have in childhood. I don’t know. I know I admire the fact that he’s got an education. He’s not a deadbeat dad and he has an amazing memory (did you know he doesn’t write his lyrics down?). Stop always trying to see the negative. You’ve probably looked at someone and thought umph, he thinks he’s the ish. That ain’t even her hair. SO WHAT. Not saying I’ve never done it, but who am I to decide what THEY think? NOBODY!! And neither are you. We have enough things to deal with in our day to day lives, stop adding unnecessary things to it. Sheesh. At the end of the day, we really aren’t all that different. We’ve just had different experiences that make us who we are.

Back to what I originally said, the bible says to love thy neighbor as thyself, not love thy neighbor if he votes for Obama, love thy neighbor if thy neighbor isn’t weird or love thy neighbor only if you understand them…

The Randomness of Me

Does Ann Romney's face look real to you? Too much Botox... Has anyone figured out what "legitimate rape" is yet? Did you see Condi at the RNC? The look on her face (to me) says yes, I'm smiling, but what the heck have I done? These mofos are crazy and if I switch teams now, my political career is over and I won't be able to play golf either. Shat! I've heard from the bestie, but I realized something. I hope he doesn't leave this earth before me because I'm missing him like crazy. This twice a day thing is for the birds. *cups hands around mouth* I NEED YOU!! I wonder if he heard that? Well, I've been trying to stay busy, so I don't go stir crazy with worry because we aren't supposed to pray and then worry. Soooooo...I've watched a ton of movies (Day After Tomorrow was a dumb choice), done a few miles on a recumbent bike (pretty amazing since I used to feel like I was dying after 3 funky minutes before) and I needed a drastic change, so I got a relaxer and cut my hair. Go ahead and regulate your breathing. I know I've been natural for 4 years now, and it's been wonderful. Well till a couple of months ago. One day I woke up and there was no more fro. It was bushy-straight-ish (in some spots).

If I washed it and put some Curly Pudding on it, I was ok, except for the constant drip down my shirt for half a day. (My hair is super thick, that's after towel drying first). It's about to be fall and I obviously can't keep doing that anyway, so to occupy my time I started looking at hairstyles. I've really been digging Meagan Good's hairstyle and I love most of Rihanna's hairstyles so when I finally mustered the nerve to make an appointment (for the very next day)I had to figure out what to do. The high bun I'd been wearing had me looking like the 3rd grade girl who'd had recess before her school pictures. Not a good look! Besides, I like to stand out from the crowd without saying a word. I did the big chop when it wasn't popular in my town and there were two of us who weren't afraid to go straight 70's Sista Girl. We wore it very well, if I might say so myself. So now that everyone else is doing it? Yeah, no. I went back to the creamy crack. It's been wonderful so far! I'm glad I did it and no one is going to "guilt" me into going natural again. I'll do it when I get the urge!

100 Words: Isaac

I have been a nervous wreck the past 24 hours or so. This hurricane has made my life hectic. When Hurricane Katrina hit, I didn’t know anyone who actually lived in NOLA. My co-worker’s daughter was there in school, but she was it. I have connected with the best friend I’ve had in my adult life and right now he’s in NOLA. I’ve prayed, so I know he’ll be alright, but I still don’t want him in this situation. I want to talk to him so badly, but I know he must save his charge. Hurricane Isaac, you really suck.

Just real quick... Ever hear a song so much that you kind of just sing it without paying attention to the words? Was listening to Usher and realized that from the bottom of my feet to the top of my head, I feel U Got It Bad. Not sure how I feel about it, but man... Usher Raymond vs. Icno 1-0 Lyrics "U Got It Bad" Oh, no, no, no, no, no... When you feel it in your body You found somebody who makes you change your ways Like hanging with your crew Said you act like you're ready But you don't really know And everything in your past - you wanna let it go I've been there, done it, fucked around After all that - this is what I found Nobody wants to be alone If you're touched by the words in this song Then baby... U got, u got it bad When you're on the phone Hang up and you call right back U got, u got it bad If you miss a day without your friend Your whole life's off track You know you got it bad when you're stuck in the house You don't wanna have fun It's all you think about U got it bad when you're out with someone But you keep on thinkin' bout somebody else U got it bad When you say that you love 'em And you really know Everything that used to matter, don't matter no more Like my money, all my cars (You can have it all back) Flowers, cards and candy (I do it just cause I'm...) Said I'm fortunate to have you girl I want you to know I really adore you All my people who know what's going on Look at your mate, help me sing my song Tell her I'm your man, you're my girl I'm gonna tell it to the whole wide world Ladies say I'm your girl, you're my man Promise to love you the best I can See I've been there, done it, fucked around After all that - this is what I found Everyone of y'all are just like me It's too bad that you can't see That you got it bad...hey U got, u got it bad When you're on the phone Hang up and you call right back U got, u got it bad If you miss a day without your friend Your whole life's off track You know you got it bad when you're stuck in the house You don't wanna have fun It's all you think about U got it bad when you're out with someone But you keep on thinkin' bout somebody else U got it bad [breakdown] U got, u got it bad When you're on the phone Hang up and you call right back U got, u got it bad If you miss a day without your friend Your whole life's off track You know you got it bad when you're stuck in the house You don't wanna have fun It's all you think about U got it bad when you're out with someone But you keep on thinkin' bout somebody else U got it bad

The Weekend

I've come to the conclusion that my blogging daily is a wrap, so I'm going to TRY and post once a week, every other week at the most. Right now I'm chillin' with the laptop across my feet, with What Kind of Man Would I Be - Mint Condition, playing on Spotify. I'm reflecting over the activities of the weekend. Helped a cousin have a rummage sale. There was some really good stuff, but I don't think that the advertising was as good as it could have been and I think running Friday and Saturday instead of Saturday and Sunday would have helped. I got some good buys. I bought several purses, 4 of them designer, a carry-on bag, a comforter and a video camera for my son all for under $30! Saturday night, I went swimming with my aunt and cousins and Sunday after church and the second sale, my cousins, aunts, grandmother and I got together for Quesadillas, finger foods and the Trade. What is the trade? It's a way to get rid of/regift something you no longer want. For instance, I brought about 12 things from jewelry I never wear, a cd I didn't care for and some clothes. We all laid out our wares and looked for things we liked. Once we found something, we found the owner and showed her the things we brought and she chose something she wanted. We did this until everyone had what they really wanted and then whatever was left over was free game for anyone. No one usually wants to take home the same things they brought. I made out pretty well. I found a dress, a workout outfit, some jeans a couple of tee shirts, a necklace and 3 pair of earrings. Some of the things traded still had tags on them. What a deal, huh? You should try it some times. Guys too! Until next time!

R.I.P. Gene EbonyPoet Cole

Graphic originally posted by Unemotional Cole on FB

The Cole Family will have a memorial in Gene EbonyPoet Cole memory at Woody's Funeral Home, 163 Oakwood Avenue, Orange, NJ at 2 pm. There will be no viewing. The memorial will be Saturday, August 11, 2012 @ 2 pm.

I first became friends with Gene on Yahoo! 360. He was my Freckle Faced Giant. A real sweetheart and a talented poet. With the demise of 360, we still managed to keep in touch throughout the years, but things were never the same as back then, still, he will be missed.

You just take for granted that people are going to be there and my heart broke when I saw the R.I.P. messages attached to his name.

In all our talks, I know without a doubt, that he loved his babies. My heart goes out to them because I know what it feels like.

Again, you will be missed...